After Michael (Mike Holmes Jr.) and I were engaged, we quickly realized that we didn’t know how to navigate planning a wedding. We already felt like an “old married couple” and we considered the ceremony to be more of a celebration of love for our friends and families and less about what a wedding symbolizes. We were so relaxed and nonchalant throughout the wedding planning process that when it came to the day of the ceremony there were a bunch of unexpected surprise emotions and lessons learnt.
Michael and I were interviewed before our wedding day and were asked if we thought that the wedding would change our relationship in any way and we both (naively) said “no.” Albert Einstein said it best when he said “The only source of knowledge is experience”. Our experience taught us a lot and we have much to reflect upon after that special day.
Michael and I have known each other since we were teenagers, so finally getting married after 11 years of having a strong connection felt very natural to both of us. Like I said above, we already felt like we were married, so much so that we wore our wedding bands for 5 months before the actual wedding. I can speak for both of us when I say that we completely underestimated the power of a wedding ceremony and how it would change our relationship. I originally thought that our wedding was a great opportunity to throw a party in the name of love and invite all of our closest friends to celebrate with us. However, the next morning when I woke up and realized that I had officially gone from girlfriend to fiancée to wife, something had shifted within both of us. This new title that we both took on as husband and wife had a profound impact on how we viewed our relationship.
Michael and I have a great partnership and we have realized that it is true what the “pros” (those in long term relationships) say about falling in love with your partner over and over again. We have been told that as you do, the love surprises you and grows to new depths, deeper than you can anticipate.
I think the biggest impact that our wedding day had on both of us was the expression of devotion and permanency which solidified the sentiments that we already felt for one another. It is one thing to feel that bond privately but to celebrate love with a formal ceremony and share it with the world creates this unexpected new depth that both Michael and I cherish every day and will continue to work towards deepening.
Having the love and commitment that we have for one another get acknowledged by the people that we hold dear to us was a very powerful experience, one that neither of us could have anticipated or prepared for. Furthermore, the fact that there were minor details included in our wedding such as the smoke medicine ceremony only enhanced the experience and took our commitment to each other to new levels physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Our wedding day was a so precious to both Michael and I and we are so grateful to be able to share these insights and special moments with all of you.
xoxo Sending Love and Light
Lisa Marie Holmes